“So you’re dating a woman in Brazil? How’s that going to work?”

My dad had a point. 4802 miles between us was just one obstacle I knew I’d be facing. When I first traveled to Brazil 3 years ago, there was no possible way to know that my life would change forever. I have traveled to over 40 countries in my life but rarely visit the same country twice. Yet before I knew it, I fell hard for a Brazilian girl and was back in Brazil a second time, then a third. Next thing I knew, I married a Brazilian woman and couldn’t be happier.

Keep in mind, before I went to Brazil I was the guy who thought he was never going to get married. My past experiences dating American women had been a disaster. Whether it was a girl I just started dating or a serious relationship, something always felt off. I swear at times it felt like I was trying to push two negative magnets together, or felt like I was dating Amy Schumer’s character from the movie “Trainwreck”.

               Let me make it clear that American men are equally at fault, and our culture has ruined dating for many people. It took me a few months, but I soon learned how foolish and childish some of my American dating habits really were. I will have to save that post for another time, but let’s just say my wife had very little patience when it came to playing games and manipulation.

                When I try to explain to people why dating a Brazilian woman is great, I seem to always have trouble putting my finger on it. All I know is once I went to Brazil, something clicked. It was as if those magnetic poles suddenly flipped. It felt like a perfect fit.

BrazilDani friendsMy wife (Pictured middle)

Here are my 7 reasons why I think Brazilian women are amazing:

1. Affection.

Touchy, feely, huggy, kissy; you name it, Brazilian women are doing it. I’m not kidding when I say you can meet a woman on the street or at the beach and end up kissing her within 30 seconds. Kissing is not a big deal in Brazil. In fact, it’s encouraged.

2. Brazilian Women Are Beautiful.

Brazilian women are very, very attractive. I think the high amount of attractive girls is partially what makes them so great. I’m not trying to knock other countries down, but the amount of talent you see (especially at bars and clubs), is ridiculous. Brazil is like 50 shades of grey, when it comes to race and ethnicity. While there isn’t a certain type (like Norway where almost everyone has blonde hair and blue eyes), generally, the women are tan and fit and have great teeth.

3. Attitude.

Brazilian women are very down to earth. They seem to be down for whatever and always have a smile on their face. I think this partially comes from living in a country with high levels of poverty. It really put life into perspective. Whereas in America, your biggest problem could be that you forgot to DVR Game of Thrones.

4. Aggressive.

The girls in Brazil don’t mess around. If a girl in Brazil likes you, there won’t be any mystery about it. I was blown away by the fact that girls in Brazil will just stare at you if they like you. In fact, my first week there, I had three different girls approach me after making extended eye contact.

5. They don’t mind being a woman.

I feel like the narrative in this country has pushed women to be exactly the same as men. Of course women are equal to men, but we are different. If you disagree with that, you’re going against science. Men and women have had certain roles for hundreds of thousands of years, and the sudden pressure change in these roles has made dating much harder.

To clarify, I think it’s great that women are able to anything they want. What I don’t like is when people make women feel guilty or ashamed for doing things such as being a stay at home mom or liking to cook for their family. I recently met a women who told me she was a house wife when I asked her what she did. It was almost as she was apologizing and trying to justify herself after she told me. I believe this is wrong. Women should never feel guilty about being a stay at home mom.  While there is some pressure in Brazil for women to succeed career wise, I feel like it’s much less than the United States.

6. Loyal.

If you have a Brazilian girl that is in to you, you don’t have to worry about a thing. Women treat their men with respect. I’ve never seen a Brazilian woman complain about her man to other people. I’m not saying they don’t talk about their problems with friends – I’m just simply saying you won’t see the boyfriend or husband bashing, just like I’ve seen in the US. Most Brazilian women hold their man with a very high level of respect.

7. They don’t complain.

Obviously, this is an exaggeration; but after 3 years with the same woman, I’m still in disbelief on how little my wife complains. My friends often seem taken back when they observe our interactions. I’ll often get comments like, “Wow! That was easy.” or “Is there anything you’re not allowed to do?” I still can’t believe what I put up with in past relationships.

It seemed like there was always something I wasn’t doing right: how I dressed, who I talked to, what I said last week etc. Women in Brazil especially seem to let small things go. Again, I suspect that living in Brazil helps keep things in perspective and not to sweat the small stuff.